retrospect


singapore marketLet me share with you a glimpse of how a typical Singapore market would look like on a bustling Sunday. This image was taken using my phone camera from the the second storey of the market while my wife haggles with the pork seller.

You might consider it an irony that Singapore is importing most of its pork products from the biggest Islamic country, which is Indonesia. Oh well, this “little red dot one degree north of equator” is getting most of its veggies, seafoods, and meat products from other countries for that matter.

Before, we had a carinderia that my mother tended to help support the family. We had it then as far back as I can remember. My filial love for her obliged me to accompany her to the market even at young age so I’m basically at ease with the sights, sounds and smells of a marché .

By way, pasar (market for malay)  practically operates half a day and close on Mondays. And pssst, my wife is preparing to host a dinner to close family and friends tonight to celebrate her lifetime lover’s birthday.

merrell shoesI was about to indulge on one of my guilty pleasures in life when my wife called and budged me to see the warehouse sale of a sports shop near her workplace. She knows how I look forward to my siesta fix during the weekends so it must really be something.

Apparently, she sneaked out while balancing some numbers and got herself few pairs of those Ipanema flip flops for a song. Okay, for S$3! Knowing her, i thought she would probably go for the “kill” after work.

And since my natal day is fast approaching, she impressed that I should really come down to help her carry her loot and pamper myself . MOS burgerI ended up buying the merrell shoes that she knows I’ve been eyeing for quite sometime for half the price, and some sports apparel.

Not bad indeed, considering that we ended up filling our tummy with the mouth-watering teriyaki beef burger at  MOS burger.

…1 in 5 primary school kids get bullied here in Singapore.

I’m quite persuaded that you will arrive roughly at that figure in any part of the world. Of course those cases where the receiving party gets really tormented, preventing them from leading a normal life and tarnished for life by the experience is very much lower — like the case of Ben Cox who was compensated by the Australian court for being bullied 12 years ago. But still, we have to agree that is still a source of concern.

In retrospect, I don’t remember being bullied. Sprouting from a ghetto-like place in Manila, I wasn’t easily get intimidated by slur or threat of violence then. Boys were expected to slug it out for any imaginable misunderstanding. It’s pretty normal as long no one gets really badly hurt and most of time one gets a congratulatory back-slap. Sometimes from their very own patriarch. It’s no big deal going home with a “blackeye” or bruises here and there.

Times has changed.

Like most of the evils of these real world, bullying is here to stay and there’s no way we can keep the world sterile for our kids. You may not agree with me but I think a healthy dose is necessary, and even unavoidable at that. It’s like how immunization works. You introduce a manageable amount of disease to help the person to better overcome it later on in life.

The important thing is to be vigilant and make sure it doesn’t get out of hand. Resources on how to deal with bullies are abound in the web. As parent, one is duty-bound to know how to deal with this menace.